At the age of 19, I realized that I was disconnected from my body and my sexuality, and commenced a journey of coming into wholeness with these parts of myself. At 21, I really became a student of sexuality, and continued to work more on my own sexual healing. I lived in the jungle of Hawai’i for 13+ years on the active volcano, Kīlauea, where I dove deeply into my sexuality path as a teacher, supporting others in empowering themselves in this realm. While there, I was also an elementary school teacher for ten years at an alternative public school that I helped to create, and I did a lot of work with teens, mentoring and spearheading events for them. I humbly learned about Aloha from the Hawaiian people and from the ‘aina (land), and Aloha is a guiding force for me in my life and my sex. I want all sexual people to be having sexual experiences that are inspired, give them rich nutrients, and feel good holistically!*
Sexual empowerment for all!
I recently moved from Hawai’i to Philadelphia to obtain my Masters in Human Sexuality Studies at Widener University, pursuing the “education” track, because my passion is teaching sexuality. I have had a number of teachers, and have also learned through texts, classes, meditation, etc., and wanted to add an academic course of study to my knowledge base. I’m stoked to be part of this excellent program!
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* And for a great resource on Asexuality, check out The Asexual Visibility and Education Network!
My Sexual Education Background
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My Educational Philosophy for Schools
Sexuality is an incredibly personal, unique experience for each individual, and this is one of the reasons I am greatly inspired by the Humanist approach to education and learning. With the infinite variations spread across myriad spectrums of different facets of sexuality, it’s important that the learning is student-centered and personalized. Also, because of the various facets, learners will have their most fulfilling sexual experiences if the teaching embraces the person as a whole. So, instead of just focusing on contraception, menstruation, and STIs the way most sex ed programs do, I talk about those, but also broaden the focus to include things like pleasure, emotional safety, self-love and respect for the self and other, consent, and other important aspects of this complex topic.
The Humanist approach believes that people behave based on their values, and encourages the study of the self. In my work I have found that many people are not actually clear what their true sexual values are, but rather are operating based on bad messaging they’ve received and have allowed many things to happen sexually that were not actually in line with their values. I help them to recognize when their motivations for sexual behaviors are not healthy. I also support people in learning to identify their own sexual truths, learn to trust their own feelings and judgments, and let this mindset lead their sexual behaviors.
Sexuality is an art form that can be explored and mastered during the entire course of one’s life. The importance placed on curiosity in Humanism, and also on developing creativity, can help people be life-long learners in the realm of sexuality. Moreover, as every individual has different preferences, attractions, desires, boundaries, etc., knowing themselves will help them be more clear on what their sexual path is throughout their life.
Students learn best in a non-threatening environment, and I have a kind, wholesome, and exceedingly non-judgmental manner when working with people in the sexual realm. When humans feel free to speak and live their truth, it gives them a safe space to blossom into their fullest potential. Most people in our culture are having sexual experiences that are nowhere near the level of fulfillment, health, and pleasure they could be having, and I want to see people being able to reach a level of amazing and mind-blowing sexuality. This is one of the main reasons I do the work I do.
To find out more about the Humanist approach, check these out ~
~ Holt, J. (1967). How children learn. Da Capo Press: Cambridge, MA.
~ Huitt, W. (2009). Humanism and open education. Educational Psychology
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~ Maheshwari, V.K. (2011, September 3). Humanism in education. Retrieved
~ Maslow, A.H. (1943). A theory of human motivation. Psychological Review,
~ McLeod, S. (2017). Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Simply Psychology.
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